is that "everything happens for a reason." As in, everything, every crappy thing that ever happened to you or anybody else was allll a part of God's plan for your life and you've just gotta trust him through it.
Family member died? Must've been God's plan. Kid spiraling out of control? That must be God's plan for his life. Someone raped, murdered, sick, cheated, hurt? It must be part of God's perfect plan and there's nothing anybody can do about it except trust.
Guys, that's horrible, and depressing, and wrong. And no wonder a lot of people don't want to become a Christian. What sort of God would plan for those things to happen to people he loved? What kind of God would let them?
God has a perfect destiny in mind for everybody. He has a will. But it's not always followed. Do you always follow God's will? Of course not. "Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven." If God's will was already done, we wouldn't need to say that!
Things happen every day that God never intended to happen. He never wanted anybody to be in pain or hurt or confused or depressed. His original plan for the world was for all of us to live happily ever after in the Garden of Eden!
But he loved us so much that he gave us all a free will to choose whether to love him back. And a lot of people chose not to. Those people, and the brokenness and sickness of our human souls, are the cause of all the pain in our world, not God.
Then why doesn't God just eliminate all the evil and bad stuff? Because then he'd have to eliminate us too.
You and me. If God chose to remove all the people that didn't live up to his standards, there wouldn't be a person left on Earth because God's standards are impossibly high.
You're no murderer. But we make choices that deviate from God's plan all the time. So for now, all that evil stays on this world along with us. But it won't always.
Jesus told this story in the Bible:
Matthew 13: 24-30
“The Kingdom of Heaven is like a farmer who planted good seed in his field. 25 But that night as the workers slept, his enemy came and planted weeds among the wheat, then slipped away. 26 When the crop began to grow and produce grain, the weeds also grew.
27 “The farmer’s workers went to him and said, ‘Sir, the field where you planted that good seed is full of weeds! Where did they come from?’
28 “‘An enemy has done this!’ the farmer exclaimed.
“‘Should we pull out the weeds?’ they asked.
29 “‘No,’ he replied, ‘you’ll uproot the wheat if you do. 30 Let both grow together until the harvest. Then I will tell the harvesters to sort out the weeds, tie them into bundles, and burn them, and to put the wheat in the barn."
We are the good wheat in the field, and all the evil is the weeds. God can't pull out the weeds now for fear of uprooting us. But harvest day is coming, and when it does, everyone gets their just desserts.
But what do we do until then? Judgment Day seems impossibly far away. How do we deal with all this evil in our lives until then?
That saying, "everything happens for a reason." is probably a twisted version of this verse.
Romans 8:28. "For we know, in ALL things, God works for the good of those who love him, who are called according to his purpose."
If you're called to God, God WILL work every horrible thing out in your life for good. He's just awesome like that. He's a master of that, in fact. I could give you endless examples of how pain and sadness, both big and small, have worked out to my benefit later on.
And it can seem like all those were part of a plan. It's actually backwards. The pain happens, and then God works it into his plan to make his plan even better.
For clarity: I'm not talking about little misfortunes, like missing a bus or something. God's plan can include little deviations or misfortunes or disappointments you don't understand. I'm talking about the big stuff-- the stuff no sane person would believe was God's plan for them.
Inspired by a sermon from my church.
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