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This post is for Courtney@Storing Up Treasures "Fo' Realz" posts.
This may sound rather harsh to people who aren't homeschooled.
We homeschool/online schoolers put up with a lot of doubters. Mostly they blab about socialization and social skills and a whole ton of other related stuff that they don't usually talk about(No one comes home from public school saying "Gee whiz, I got so much socialization today!")
And it's true, somewhat. A lot of us don't have best friends or even a best friend. A lot of us don't go out to the movies or to the mall. And sometimes we don't have anyone to talk to about stuff we like or when we feel sad.
Normally, I lament about it. But I was thinking that maybe it's okay.
I'm not saying I don't need friends. Of course I do. But I think that besides lowering peer pressure, the unique(not nonexistent, mind you) socialization(blech I hate that word) aspect of homeschooling shapes homeschoolers to become more confident and independent.
People who grow up surrounded by friends sometimes wonder who they would be without their friends. And when they're separated from their friends they wonder who they are.
Some people would do anything for friends. Being friendless is the worst thing that could ever happen to them. And sometimes they give in to people who take advantage of them or are terrible friends. Because to them, nothing is worse than being alone.
Homeschoolers have friends. We just aren't drowning in them. We see them sometimes. We have different groups of friends for each activity(church friends, school friends, etc.) We don't see them all the time or every day. We may go for weeks without emailing them, calling them, or seeing them at all.
It's true that homeschooling often means being alone at times. But maybe that's not so bad. Before we go out into the world, we need to have a strong sense of who we are. And nothing helps that more than separating from the influences of friends and enemies and discovering yourself. And sometimes, I won't have friends. That's just life. I may decide to stand up for your beliefs sometime in the future when it's unpopular. Sometimes standing up for your beliefs may mean sacrificing friends. Learning to stand on your own for a short time isn't a bad thing.